When we were kids, the more friends we had, the better it was. We used to feel sad if we didn’t have enough friends, or if we had a party and nobody showed up. I know it happened to me a few times. As we grow up (and hopefully matured) we realize that it’s not the number of friends we have, we just have to understand and come to terms that we have different friends for different situations. Sounds complicated? It really isn’t; I’m sure you’ve heard before that we “outgrow” friendships and that can be very true. However, there are times in our lives when we need the loud, funny friend, there are also times when we need the serious, understanding friend with advice that will get us out of a funky mood.
Just because we are in our 30s, 40s or 50s etc., doesn’t mean that we can’t get wild and have fun at times. We just have to know when and how to reach out to our different types of friends.
Everyone we meet has a purpose in our lives and we need to be able to understand what their purpose is, as well as what our purpose is in theirs. Here are some examples of the type of friends we have in our lifetime:
The Fun Friend
The one friend you KNOW you will have an amazing time with. You laugh, you drink, you dance and you part ways. This, in no way, is the friend that you want to have a serious conversation with. These friends are usually pretty easy to find.
The Mom Friend
Sometimes reaching out to our mothers isn’t an option. We sadly may not have her around, or you may not feel comfortable talking to your mother about your issues. The Mom Friend doesn’t have to be a mom. I’ve been a Mom Friend since my teen years, this is the caretaker, the listener, the nurturer. This is the friend that will make you feel all warm and cozy when you’re feeling lonely and desperate.
The Blunt Friend
Yep! We need that one too believe it or not (haha). You know when you’re in need of some tough love and you have to be able to take it. When you’ve asked your friends for advice on a relationship for the gazillionth time and you’re still making the same mistakes. Maybe it’s time to talk to your blunt friend. This friend will tell it to you like it is with no filter. This friend will also tell you how freaking fabulous you are and how silly you’re being by putting yourself down.
The Damsel in Distress Friend
Sometimes we’re in the mood to feel needed and be able to help a friend out. The D.I.D. friend will be the one that you can help out. Maybe you babysit the kids or listen to a problem he/she is going through at the time and you’re able to help. You will feel the satisfaction of helping a friend out. Doing your good deed for the day.
However, we have to be very careful with this friend (lol). This friend will consume our energy if we let it.
If you’re lucky enough, you will find a friend that meets all these characteristics. If that’s the case cherish them!! Also, take a hard look at yourself and realize which type of friend you truly are to others, but most importantly, we need to be all of these friends to ourselves. Only then, will we recognize the value of our friendships and the mutual value we have with them in our journeys through life. Your birthday party may not have hundreds of people, but your life will definitely be more meaningful if you have the right company by your side.