Throw Shine Not Shade

“With 2017 being the year of Women Empowerment, I’m highly disappointed in the lack of support” -Bonnie Speaks
Women should support each other on an everyday basis. Let’s face it, it’s hard enough being a woman in a so-called man’s world, so why fight each other. I could never understand what all the competition is about. Even the most successful women constantly tear each other down in the worst ways.
For example, all the drama going on with the women of Hip Hop. Now I completely understand that controversy sells and gets people to buy records. What I don’t understand is, the necessity to let it get so personal, to the point that you find yourself trying to ruin another woman’s career? We have these women that are in the public eye that are idolized by the younger generation, clawing at each, so much that they cant work together. Why? When will we understand that we can accomplish more together than apart. Every day there is a woman going home feeling defeated, doubting herself because of the negative words or actions of another woman.
Women compete with each other for jobs, attention, and men. Constantly hating on one another saying things like “She’s pretty for a black girl” or “They only gave her the job cause she’s light skin.” This negativity needs to stop, and it all begins with you. The more we learn to love ourselves truly and unconditionally the less we will feel the need to be in constant competition for any and everything. When you accept yourself, flaws and all, you will begin to care less about what the other person has that you may lack. You will no longer be concerned with who’s the prettiest, the richest, the most successful, or even the most loved.
Please ladies Reality Tv is not Reality. Sleeping with another woman’s man should not be #goals for you. Stopping another woman from making money should not be something you brag about. These are all things in this generation that are being handed down to our little women in the making, allowing them to think this is acceptable behavior. Stepping on each other to get ahead will only set us back decades. Think about it women are the biggest minority in the world. It took years for us to get equality in America. Yet men make more money doing jobs, that we do just as well, if not better than.We have accomplished so much over the years why go backward.
There is no rule that says there can only be one best, so why act as such. Instead of gossiping about each other let’s lift each other up. Let’s work together not just in the public eye but behind closed doors. Show our young women we are a united front. Set better examples for our daughters. Don’t live your life trying to be better than someone else, just focus on being the best you. If you can help another hard working woman get ahead then don’t be afraid to extend that olive branch. Try to be a little less aggressive and judgemental. Stop judging a book by its cover and get to know your fellow sisters before you begin to throw shade, for no other reason except that you felt like being petty that day. Keep in mind that when women support each other incredible things can and will happen. Remember these words
“Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the World perceives that
strength.’ -G.D. Anderson
Signing Off,
Bonnie Speaks
LOVE YOURSELF , LOVE YOUR SISTERS, & SPREAD THAT LOVE WORLDWIDE
THROW SHINE NOT SHADE & LET’S ALL WIN TOGETHER!
I always enjoy your feedback and questions so don’t be afraid to email me
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