Is Marriage Really Worth It?
I recently came across a post by a wife who wasn’t sure what to do next. While snooping in her husband’s phone she found some alarming photos. Her question was should she let him sleep or should she confront him right there and now. Many women, wives, and girlfriends chimed in with their words of wisdom. Some edging her on to wake him up and others concerned for her well being asking; Is he the breadwinner? If so, what’s your plan to survive? How much do you love him? Can you forgive him, If so maybe say nothing. Within an hr, she and the readers of her post had come up with plans and scenarios for her to execute in the morning. After sharing stories of what they did when they snooped through their significant others phones they settled for the night asking and pleading for an update the next day.
This post was very interesting and intriguing. On one hand, I was proud that I found a place where women can share and advise each other without judgment and it all seemed to be coming from a positive place. I wasn’t used to seeing this and although that was great and inspiring, on the other hand, I was crushed and disappointed as if finding out Santa wasn’t real all over again. Is this what married life had to offer? Is this what I looked forward to in a marriage? Will I be a snooping wife? And what will I find? So many questions started to float around. I started to worry about my future marriage even though I wasn’t successfully dating.
I too have snooped before but I don’t want to snoop anymore. I like to fantasize about my perfect husband who gives me access to all of his accounts but because we’re so perfect I would never doubt him and fight the urge to snoop through his things. But, after reading that post and all of the comments I am now doubting whether or not there can be true trust in a marriage. Being single I have a lot of ideas of how I’ll keep my husband happy and faithful, but I have heard of women that go above and beyond what I plan to do and still get cheated on or taken for granted anyway. So is marriage worth it?
Yes, it is! It depends on what you want. As a single mother coming from a single parent household, I see the importance of raising children with two parents. I can see how having the right partner could be life-changing and help elevate my family to where I see it being. I also see how having the wrong partner could possibly ruin my life. I understand marriage may not be for everyone and if you have a snooping problem perhaps you should get that in check before you say I do.